Panel discussion on motherhood and love (Vienna)

Motherhood and Love
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Monday, 28 April 2014, 6:00pm – 8:00pm, IWM library
Love: A Question for Feminism?

Monday, April 28, 6pm
Venue: IWM, Spittelauer Lände 3, 1090 Wien


Guardian article – Relationship FAQ

Rewriting The Rules

Yesterday The Guardian interviewed a bunch of sex and relationship bloggers to find out our answers to our most frequently asked questions. The article is here and you can read my answers below – hard to capture all the complexity in 130 words a piece!

Question 1: What kinds of relationship are most successful?

I write a lot about different possible ways of doing relationships: monogamous, monogamish and openly non-monogamous relationships; living apart together and long distance relationships; sexual and non-sexual relationships. Something I’m often asked is whether a certain form of relationships can be successful. My question back is always ‘what do you mean by successful?’ It generally turns out that people mean longevity. While studies have found that all these forms of relationships can last over time, I question whether that is the best measure of relationship ‘success’. Perhaps that is something else that is worth thinking about.

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The love bargain?


Thanks to Charlotte Faircloth for flagging up an interesting newspaper article this week which reported the divorce settlement of a couple who actually divorced over ten years ago. The couple apparently continued to live together long after the divorce, until the man, now in his 70s, met someone else and invited her and her daughter to move in with him. What happened next I think most people would find surprising: The man asked his ex-wife to stay on in the house taking on the role of a ‘housekeeper’. The ex-wife reportedly found this situation “very demeaning and upsetting”, hence the divorce settlement, in which, after the judge ruled in her favour, she was awarded approximately half her ex-husband’s fortune. A not to be sniffed at £6 million.
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Love, Marriage and Intimacy among Gujarati Indians

Kath_Twamley_Photo_A new book by network member Katherine Twamley

Love, Marriage and Intimacy among Gujarati Indians
A Suitable Match

One of the first of its kind, this book compares understandings and experiences of love and intimacy of one distinct cultural group – Gujarati Indians – born and brought up in two different countries. Using in-depth ethnographic fieldwork with middle-class Gujaratis aged between 20 and 30 years of age, it explores their relationship ideals and early experiences of marriage formation. It shows how discourses on what it means to be modern have interacted with pervasive ongoing status ideologies in both the UK and India. In bringing together the findings from both contexts, the book addresses the connections between intimacy, class, globalisation and kinship. Young Gujaratis are concerned not only with global ideals of ‘companionate marriage’, but also with national and local ideologies of what constitutes a ‘respectable’ middle-class marriage and family ideal. Such ideals shape not only practices of courtship and relationships, but the very experiences of love and desire.


You will find Katherine’s blog here.

Law and Love – a one day colloquium

Humanities Research Centre @ The Australian National University Presents:

Law and Love – a one day colloquium 

5 December 2014

Further details TBC


In our social imaginary, love has become the major existential goal of our times, which is capable of providing all of us with a sense of worth and a way of being in the world (Beck & Beck-Gernsheim, 1995). Love has become our ‘ultimate source of meaning and happiness’: it is a ‘gift’ that affirms the beloved and transforms us to a higher state of being (May, 2011).


In our political imaginary, law has become our highest political ideal. Life with the rule of law marks us out as a civilized nation and people. Liberal citizenship is defined by one’s belief in the rule of law. No event, actor or claim escapes the rule of law – there is no field of life in which law has not or cannot enter (Kahn, 2000).


This workshop aims to explore the intersection of the ideal of love in our social imaginary and the rule of law in our political imaginary. The workshop invites reflection on the ways in which law understands and interacts with love, and gives and takes meanings from love, and vice-versa.


Researchers of law and love are invited to submit a paper for a one-day interdisciplinary workshop.


Possible topics include:

–          The meanings and definitions of love in law

–          Love as reflected in legal doctrines

–          The intersection of law and love in literary and classical texts

–          Philosophical and theological inquiries into the relationship between law and love

–          The history of the ideas of law and love


Please send an abstract of 500 words and a short biographical description to and by June 10.


Full papers will be circulated before the workshop.